K-pop Penpal Questions to Ask Another Fan

How to use these questions

Whether you've got a new penpal, just matched with another fan in a chat, or want to make your group chat less quiet, these questions work. Don't fire them off like an interview. Ask one, actually react to the answer, share your own, and let it turn into a real conversation.

Getting to know each other

1. Who was your first ever bias, and are they still your bias?
2. How did you get into K-pop? Was it a song, a friend or a random video?
3. Which fandom do you belong to, and how long have you been in it?
4. Do you have a bias wrecker who keeps making you question everything?
5. What's the first K-pop song you ever had on repeat?
6. Do your friends or family know you're a K-pop fan? How do they feel about it?
7. Which group would you show someone who has never heard K-pop?
8. Are you a one-group stan or a multi-stan?

Music talk

9. What song do you think is the most underrated of all time?
10. Which B-side deserves to be a title track?
11. Pick one era from any group to live in forever. Which one?
12. What song do you skip every single time, even from your fave group?
13. Which K-pop song would you play at your wedding?
14. Do you care about lyrics or is it all about the vibe?
15. Which solo debut surprised you the most?
16. What's a song that got you through a hard time?

Fun and silly

17. If you could swap lives with one idol for a day, who and why?
18. Which idol do you think would be the best roommate?
19. What's the most money you've spent on one album?
20. Have you ever learned a K-pop dance? Which one, and how badly did it go?
21. Which idol would survive a zombie apocalypse?
22. If you could create your own group, who would be in it?
23. What fandom meme do you send the most?
24. Photocard you'd never trade, even for a lot of money?

Going deeper

25. What has K-pop taught you that you didn't expect?
26. Have you made real friends through your fandom?
27. Is there a lyric that feels like it was written about your life?
28. What do you love most about your fandom, and what would you change?
29. If you could tell your bias one thing, what would it be?
30. How has your music taste changed since you got into K-pop?

Would you rather (K-pop edition)

31. Would you rather go to one concert in the front row, or five concerts in the back?
32. Would you rather have a fan call with your bias, or watch them perform live?
33. Would you rather only listen to one group forever, or never listen to them again but have access to every other group?
34. Would you rather know all the choreography or all the lyrics of your fave group?

Where to find K-pop penpals and fan friends

On Stranger Talk you can join free K-pop fan group chats for ARMY, BLINK, ONCE and STAY, with rooms for almost every member. If you want a one-on-one chat, start a random chat and drop a K-pop question in your first message. You'll know quickly if they're a fan.

Want to test your knowledge instead? Try the K-pop quizzes or find out which BTS member you are.

Penpal safety tips

Keep it fun and keep it safe. Don't share your address, school or workplace, phone number or private photos with someone you only know online. A real fan friend won't mind waiting until you trust them.